Bring Your Whole Self (11)

I once worked with a woman who came across as harsh and bullish. I didn’t like her all – until we went for a drink one evening and out of the work environment, she was a completely different person. Fun, cool and nice. The transformation was astonishing. How did she do that?

I have found that we all do it to some degree as adults. The more activities and responsibilities you have, it sometimes becomes easier to compartmentalize your personality to best fit the situation.

Maybe it’s a bit of instinctual self-preservation in case of rejection. Maybe it feels necessary.

The result is that others don’t really get to know you. All of you. The good, the bad and the ugly. Truth – not everyone is going to like you anyway (gasp)! Take the risk. The real connections that are made with the real you are worth whatever negativity you may encounter.

“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.” ~ Coco Channel